Gwyneth Paltrow: 'Avoid the Drama of Divorce' with 'Conscious Uncoupling'

Barbara Boland
By Barbara Boland | March 26, 2014 | 4:07 PM EDT

Movie actress Gwyneth Paltrow and Coldplay's Chris Martin are going to separate as husband and wife - but in characteristic Goop style, Gwyneth posted the announcement on her lifestyle blog, followed by an essay by Drs. Saedghi and Sami on "Conscious Uncoupling."

Paltrow's message, titled "Conscious Uncoupling" reads:

It is with hearts full of sadness that we have decided to separate. We have been working hard for well over a year, some of it together, some of it separated, to see what might have been possible between us, and we have come to the conclusion that while we love each other very much we will remain separate. We are, however, and always will be a family, and in many ways we are closer than we have ever been. We are parents first and foremost, to two incredibly wonderful children and we ask for their and our space and privacy to be respected at this difficult time. We have always conducted our relationship privately, and we hope that as we consciously uncouple and coparent, we will be able to continue in the same manner.


Gwyneth & Chris

For those unfamiliar with Goop, Paltrow's site has been mocked and derided regularly through the years for its pompous lecturing. Weekly emails with advice on how to be just like her - with tips on everything from detoxing to bowel movements to getting rid of your "New Year's butt."

The NY Post in 2009 cited these gems from her site:


On exercise: "[My trainer] sent me this [DVD] for the New Year's butt. It's really hard. But do it like she says to do it, and I swear that in 10 days you will see your butt change shape."


On elimination: "If your bowel movements get sluggish, you can accelerate things by drinking half a cup of castor oil or using a mild herbal laxative."


On detoxing: "I like to do fasts and detoxes a couple of times during the year, the most hard-core one being the Master Cleanse I did last spring . . . As I do not wish to subsist on lemon water in the middle of winter, I asked my doctor, a detox diet specialist, for the guidelines he uses to achieve a good detox that is not as hallucinogenic (in a bad way) as the Master Cleanse. He actually thinks that the Master Cleanse can be dangerous because the liver is not supported by the nutrients it needs."

The essay that follows Chris Martin's and Gwyneth Paltrow's announcement says that marriage hasn't evolved with modern man's longer life spans and divorce doesn't mean your relationship wasn't successful.

If we can recognize that our partners in our intimate relationships are our teachers, helping us evolve our internal, spiritual support structure, we can avoid the drama of divorce and experience what we call a conscious uncoupling. A conscious uncoupling is the ability to understand that every irritation and argument was a signal to look inside ourselves and identify a negative internal object that needed healing.

"Underneath that psychobabble is the message that goes along with all Goop productions: Even Gwyneth's separation is better than yours," Slate summarizes.  "The announcement of the split is accompanied by a gorgeous photograph of the supremely actualized couple lounging in the grass. After the news broke, a friend of mine texted, 'Honestly it made me want to get divorced! And I am not even married.'"