Making Things 'Equal'

Jen Kuznicki
By Jen Kuznicki | June 9, 2014 | 4:05 PM EDT

When I was little, I had a t-shirt that said, "Anything boys can do, girls can do better."  My brothers hated that shirt, and my sassy attitude whenever I wore it.

I remember them saying that I wasn't as strong as them, or, if I was so good, why didn't I chop and haul the wood they had to.  And in retrospect, though wearing the shirt made me feel more confident, I kind of liked the fact that my chores were relegated to indoor household activity, rather than hot, sweaty, dirty work that boys were instructed to do.  So maybe, the t-shirt slogan was only worth the controversy it started.

When we strike out on our own, though, we tend to gravitate toward more traditional vocations.  We realize we have limits, sometimes of natural origin, or limits we impose on ourselves.  I don't like to cut wood, therefore, I don't do it, but if I had to, I would.  But if I'm put in the position that I have to cut wood to survive, have I become equal to a man?

If I could remember the name of the female comedian, I'd give her credit, but she said something like, "Women don't want to be treated equal to a man.  We want to be treated better than them," and I found that to ring true.  Even an avowed feminist will expect a man to treat her in the genteel manner in which women in this society have traditionally expected to be treated, especially when they demand respect.  After showing up at rallies wearing costumes to resemble female genitalia, these same women demand the respect given Mother Teresa. Why? Simply because they are women.  A man wouldn't demand or get respect for showing up anywhere dressed as his member, would he?  Equality cannot ever be attained, can it?  Respect for oneself is becoming a thing of the past as well...

At the same time that equality is demanded, don't you have to first assume that there are traditional roles, as well as reasons why those traditions are incorrect?  And it's never the case that some women demand to chop wood, they instead want the perks of being a natural man. They try to change nature.  They work on an assumption that, if you are born a man, you have it easier than women, therefore, women demand to be equal.  But, after decades of observing men doing men things, I have to say that they don't have it easier than us, especially when it comes to things women don't particularly like to do.

So, if you demand equality for all women to be treated the same way men are treated, um, count me out.

The society in which we live, though, makes it more common for a woman to be single, than to have a man they can count on to do things and to be, well, manly.  The single mom has to perform both roles of father and mother, while a growing number of men shrug their traditional responsibilities.  There are biological reasons for a woman to want to have children and to nurture, as there are biological reasons for men to chase his personal pleasure, and making them equal under the circumstances they find themselves in this broken society is farther away than ever.  Yes, you could say that the equality gap is larger than it has ever been.

The closest thing to equality between men and women is the marriage of them to become one.  Dad chops the wood, Mom makes dinner, and together, they are fed and warm.  That may sound controversial, so maybe we should print t-shirts.