We continue to learn a lot from reading the Huffington Post, the unofficial newsletter of the Hollywood left. Earlier this week it was that a San Francisco festival of sexual deviancy has “purists” who might be offended at “irreverence” towards their celebration. Now, a Nov. 20 article alerts readers to the plight of polyamorous Americans during family-centered holidays.
In “Thanksgiving Advice: How to Bring Your Boyfriend Home When You’re Polyamorous,” Sierra Black begins by describing a seemingly normal family request:
“One year, several years ago, I asked my mom if I could bring my then-boyfriend home for Thanksgiving. He didn't have local family to celebrate with and I thought it'd be nice to spend the day together.”
Simple enough, right? But her parents rejected her request, since there was one problem:
“It's not that she didn't like my boyfriend. It's just that I'm happily married to someone else, and having my boyfriend and my husband both there for the holidays seemed like a bit much to her.”
How dare those old-fashioned, troglodytic parents display their quaint “social bias against poly relationships?” Black’s solution was simple: “I decided not to push it. I went home for a family dinner with my husband and kids, and met up with my boyfriend at my place afterwards.”
It’s like a Rockwell painting!
Black then digresses into advice about how the members of polyamorous groups should deal with recalcitrant family members, which translates to a “get over it” to those family members:
“When you have more than one partner, there can be a whole new layer of challenges. Ultimately of course, bringing your husband and your sweetie home for the holidays shouldn't be a big deal. We all go out and form new relationships as adults, and our parents have to deal with them. They might not like our choice of partners, but they don't get to pick.”
Well, that depends on whether holidays are about bringing families together or about forcing bizarre lifestyles down the throats of others. And, indeed, Black is not shy about her desire to force others to accept her relationship:
“It's perfectly reasonable to point out that their prejudice is showing if they simply object to your sweetie being there because they see the relationship as less legit than the one you share with your spouse.”
However you celebrate Thanksgiving, and whoever you celebrate it with, spare a thought of gratitude for HuffPo, and all the interesting things it teaches.